13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do | Divya Toshniwal |

You have power over your mind and not over the outside situations. In a world where every person is going through chronic stress and where every other person is suffering from mental and emotional issues that bring a difference in your life is how strong you are. If you are mentally strong to handle the stressors that the situations are raining upon you, life would become easier and smooth for you.

At some point in life, your mental strength is bound to be tested. It’s hard to be mentally strong, especially when you feel stuck. The ability to break the mold and take a bold new direction requires that extra grit, daring, and spunk that only the mentally strongest people have.

It’s fascinating how mentally strong people set themselves apart from the crowd. Where others see impenetrable barriers, they see challenges to overcome.

Here is a list of 12 things that mentally strong people don't do:

1. They Don't Waste Time Feeling Sorry For Themselves:

Not every command you give your brain would be successfully completed and not every wish you make will be granted. When nothing goes your way it is but natural to feel sorry about yourself and to blame it on luck. Self-pity is destructive and creates feelings of negativity. The goal is to swap self-pity with gratitude. Be grateful for what you already have and be grateful for all that you are going to have.

2. They Don't Underestimate Themselves: 

They understand their strength and they know how to stand up for themselves. They know their importance and they believe in themselves. Learning how to believe in yourself will open up endless possibilities in your life. At times you may find this difficult to do. The truth is that we’ve been conditioned throughout our lives to doubt ourselves. We must retrain ourselves to get rid of our fears and self-doubt in order to build self-esteem and self-confidence.

3. They Don't Shy Away From Change:

Change is the only constant in life and this is one fact that mentally strong people accept completely. Things are constantly changing, relations are changing, work is changing and people are changing. The people who are mentally strong accept the change and modify themselves to fit into the changing environment. We generally seek comfort and change is scary because it brings the unknown factor. Don't let fear dictate your life. Although initially change may be difficult but it will prove to be rewarding once accepted.

4. They Don't Focus On Things They Can't Control:

There is no use wasting your energy on things you cannot control and the mentally strong people understand this very well. You can't control the length of your life but you can control the depth of it. You can't control how your face looks but you can control the expression it makes. You can't control what people say about you, but you can control how you take their words. You can't control the weather outside but you can control the atmosphere of your mind. Mentally strong people understand that the greater part of their happiness comes from focusing on what they can control and focusing on the things one can't control only opens the door to frustration and unhappiness.

5. They Don't Worry About Pleasing Everybody:

No matter what you do there will be someone somewhere who is unhappy about you. The people who are mentally strong are immune to the 'log kya kahenge ' syndrome. they believe in themselves and their dreams. They do not bother about people who judge them. They take care of themselves and invest in self-development to move closer to their goals. They know where to set their boundaries and they understand that it is ok to say NO.

6. They Don't Spend Time Dwelling On The Past: 

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift of God, which is why we call it the present. The mentally strong people understand the importance of 'NOW'. We cannot change what has happened in the past but what we can do is work in our present to change our future. To sit and repent about what has happened in the past, to carry its weight into our present is only going to hamper our progress towards a better future.

7. They Don't Give Up After The First Failure:

Winston Churchill said, "Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. " The mentally strong people stand strong even after a failure. They learn from their mistakes and take it positively. They are self-motivated to work towards their goals. There is a famous dialogue from a famous Bollywood movie that says "Main udna chahta hoon , daudna chahta hoon ,girna bhi chahta hoon... bas rukna nahi chahta." ( I want to fly, I want to run and also want to fall down, what I don't want is to STOP.)

8. They Don't Make The Same Mistakes Over And Over Again:

Although they are not scared of failures, the mentally strong people also learn from their failures. They use the lessons learned to prevent themselves from committing the same mistakes again. They accept responsibility for their mistakes and create plans to avoid the same mistake in the future.

9. They Don't Fear Spending Time Alone: 

Were here strange mental issues that people are going through these days which is known popularly as FOMO(Fear Of Missing Out). It is a social anxiety that is generated mostly through social media where the person starts fearing that everybody except them is having fun and rewarding experiences in life. They see people traveling and with friends and family. They end up thinking they are the only ones left alone at home doing nothing. They fear they are missing out on life. The mentally strong people, on the other hand, do not fear to spend some time alone. They choose to have solitude so that they can work on themselves.

10. They Don't Resent Other People's Success: 

An awesome book came my way and changed the world for me. It showed me the power of our thoughts and how we attract everything towards us with the way we think. The book states that each though has that frequency and to balance the inner and outer, the thoughts that you send out will resonate with your reality. If you resent other people's success the thought that you send out is resentment and if you are happy for them the thought that you send out is happiness. the mentally strong people understand this difference. Also, they understand that if they keep focusing on others they would not have time to enjoy what they have, even if the whole world is at their feet.

11. They Don't Feel That The World Owes Them Anything : 

The mentally strong people do not keep score. They don't wait for the world to do good for them because they deserve it or because they did some good. They believe in themselves and focus on their work. They accept criticism and work towards self-development.

12. They Don't Expect Immediate Results: 

Even miracles take time. So anything that you have been working on isn't going to give immediate results. Having the patience to wait is not enough, the mentally strong people also understand that the way they behave while waiting is equally important. To wait and crib all the time is doing you no good. So do your work and let the results come while you work for your next step.

13. They Understand That Life Is not Perfect :

The mentally strong people understand that life is not perfect but it does carry perfect moments. They don't ruin their perfect moments in cribbing about and imperfect life. Life is not perfect and it will never be, you just have to make the most of it. Make it count and make it memorable. And most importantly don't forget to LIVE.

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  1. Much needed.. Thank u so much for this..

  2. I am positive to a fault and I agree with everything you have said. You said that positive people don't worry about pleasing everybody. If I may add: I would be very worried if I pleased everybody - that would mean that I am definitely playing to the gallery.


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